What if readiness to have a session isn't about being healed? One question can tell you more than any timeline.

Do you ever wonder whether you've healed enough and are ready to connect with soul energies in a psychic mediumship session?

This question comes to mind as I embark on a Mindfulness and Grief Coach certification course with Heather Stang, Grief Coach and Trainer.

My word for 2026 is Deepening (you can read more about choosing a word for the year on my Soul Notes page), and growing my capacity to be with grief spoke to me as the first step on the journey.

Everyone's grief journey is unique, of course, so there are no rules as to 6 months, a year, two years being the "right" time. And healing is a journey that can go on for years as we adjust to the new reality.

A general sign that you may be ready is that you're curious again: not just surviving the loss but beginning to wonder what you might learn from it and where it might lead you.

(My mom had a relatively quick 5-week journey to the end of her life at age 74 in 2007, and that grief stayed tender for a good 6 years. When my 86-year-old father died in 2019, it was easier to accept as I'd been walking alongside him all those years. I was not a believer in mediumship when my mom died, but had experienced enough synchronicity by 2019 to know that connection was possible.)

Besides time passing, there are other factors that influence readiness.

A few that I find most impactful are: 

• Type of relationship (parent, sibling, spouse, child, relative, co-worker, etc.)
• Level of connection as humans and souls
• Different kinds of trauma associated with the death
• How the death impacts your life
• Whether you’ve had the time and support to process the grief

Over the next few weeks, we'll look at a variety of relationships and what makes readiness look different for each.

Let’s take a look at the death of a parent this week.  

Whether you had a close relationship and felt their love and acceptance, or you’re still struggling with messages of “not enough” or “not worthy,” or somewhere in between, this loss brings home generational shifts in a way no other loss does.

That part of us that needed to be the child, to be dependent, is now required to recognize and build our own capacity to take care of ourselves.  

If the relationship was close, reaching out to them in spirit form during a session will bring evidence that they are still supporting you. That may look like commenting on a recent event or offering guidance on plans you are making, or sharing an object that is nearby; they may point to a quality in you they want you to recognize and develop.  

Relationships with parents can be challenging, so if it was more contentious, they now have a broader view of how it played out and can share that perspective with you. They can access ancestral patterns and share information on their soul journey as it impacted you.  

So here’s a question you can ask yourself: Am I starting to wonder less about why this happened, and more about where it's leading me?  

If your answer is yes, reach out and together we’ll create the connection and clarity that you are longing for.

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Next week we’ll explore the loss of a partner- potentially devastating in completely different ways. I’m holding you in my heart as emotions arise.  

In peace,

Johanna